There are lots of ways to destroy your leadership effectiveness. Which no leader wants to do, but nonetheless many walk down one of these roads and some never return.

Here are a few to watch out for.

—Never say “no” to anyone, believing you have to be available to anyone with a need. If you don’t, they might stop giving, spread rumors about you or leave the church.

—Do everything yourself…don’t totally trust or delegate responsibility to anyone else, because no one can do it as well as you can. It will take you longer to develop someone else than just doing it yourself.

–Be suspicious and keep your eyes open… people are out to get you, have you fired or get your job.

—Never get personal or share information about your family in public communication as it may be used against you.

—Avoid transparency and vulnerability in your relationships, assuming it’s a sign of weakness.

—Don’t allow anyone to offer constructive criticism or question your motives, decisions or ideas. You are God’s anointed and no one should touch you.

—Put your family second to the church. Your family will understand that you are serving the Lord and should be willing to pay the price.

—Find your security, identity, worth and significance in how big your ministry is and how fast it’s growing. Didn’t they count people in the book of Acts? Isn’t there is a book in the Bible called “Numbers?”

—Don’t worry about taking vacations or practicing Sabbath. Real leaders give it all they have (and more) and can rest when they get to heaven. It’s better to burn out than to rust out. Jesus was tired most of the time, never took a vacation and was so exhausted that he fell asleep in a boat in the middle of a storm. You can be like Jesus!

—Don’t worry about secret sin…nobody’s perfect. If you confess your sin, people will think you are not worthy to be a leader and will ask you to step down.