It seems today that with all the pressure leaders are under, coupled with time-constraints, it’s challenging to take some time to reflect on things in order to ascertain how I’m really doing and what needs to change if I’m to avoid burnout and not finish a week, month, or even a life well. Dan Rockwell shares some excellent reflective questions leaders can ask themselves.

Originally published by Dan Rockwell

One week flows unchanged into the next until you ask different questions. Good intentions fade. Old patterns hang on until you adopt a new approach.

5 uncomfortable reflections:

  1. You burned the candle at both ends again.
  2. You hoped things would be better, but they dragged on.
  3. You wanted to break a painful pattern, but it still plagues you.
  4. You found reasons to postpone things that mattered and gave yourself to urgencies.
  5. You hid behind changing others when you should have worked on yourself.

Don’t ruminate on things you don’t like. Don’t ignore them either.

Self-awareness is necessary for growth. You see yourself before you develop yourself. This requires honest self-reflection.

4 questions to ask at the end of the week for self-reflection:

#1. How did you receive help this week?

You’re probably good at giving help. How did you receive it?

  1. I let myself be seen when I …
  2. I asked _________ for advice.
  3. I sought help for an issue from ________.
  4. I said yes when _________ offered help.

The people who rise the highest receive the most help.

#2. What’s one thing you did this week that you want to stop?

Your inner critic might give you a long list of stupid things you did. If you think of many things you need to stop, record only one.

#3. What three things are you thankful you did this week?

Feel free to record more than three, but if you can’t think of three your inner critic is sucking the life out of you.

Your brain might look for big things to be thankful you did. Don’t let the need for big things be the reason you don’t express gratitude.

#4. What’s one thing you want to do next week?

Do something new. Don’t simply add fuel to established patterns.

What questions would you add to the above list?