I’m sure we’ve all heard the saying, “Power corrupts and absolute power corrupts absolutely.” ~ British politician Lord Acton.
Power can be used for good or for bad. There seems to be an ongoing discussion in local churches as to where the power to decide certain things resides. If it’s not clear who has decision making authority, someone will generally step in and try to take control whether they have the right to or not. Chuck Lawless share with us 15 ways to recognize control freaks in your church.
Originally posted by Chuck Lawless
I’ve seen too many churches with laypersons (and pastors, for that matter, though I’m focusing on laity with this post) who want to control the show. Here are some markers of those folks:
- They’ve been at the church for a while. At least in the established church, they assume that their tenure gives them the right to take the lead.
- They’ve often stepped into leadership voids in the past. Listen to their stories, and you’ll often find they’ve gained control during previous times of transition or turmoil.
- They want to know everything. Knowledge is empowering, and they expect to be in the loop for everything. I call them “information idolaters.”
- They don’t listen to opposing views. Particularly in a congregational-polity church, they’ll fight for the right to express their opinion – but then completely dismiss the opinions of others.
- Their early support for a new pastor seldom lasts—no matter who the pastor is. They have a pattern of trying to secure power with a new pastor, eventually turning on him, and driving him out.
- They demand being a part of every major decision. In fact, they can’t imagine how the church can wisely decide something without their input. Even if they agree with the decision, they’ll find something wrong if they weren’t part of the process.
- Their support for pastoral leadership blows with the wind. If they like what the pastor’s doing, they’re on board. If they don’t like it, though, they quickly become opposition – always “for the good of the church,” they say.
- They speak in terms of “some people are saying.” These “people” may be only themselves and their spouses, but the exaggerated phrase “some people” gives them a sense of support.
- They see the negative more than the positive. They see themselves as God’s appointed prophets to make sure the church never goes astray (with “astray” meaning any direction they don’t want to go).
- They often use veiled threats against leaders. You’ve probably heard some of them: “people are going to leave”; “we’ll stop giving”; “we’ve seen many pastors come and go” . . . .
- They seldom talk about the Word or prayer. Indeed, you’ll seldom hear them talk about their personal walk with God. Control freaks don’t usually need God.
- They often focus on the budget. Controlling the purse strings is a primary way they extend their influence.
- Tearing down others seems to be in their DNA. That is, they always find something wrong with anyone who might gain some influence in the church.
- They hold unofficial “business meetings” in the parking lot or the local restaurant. Or, at any place in town where their group can scheme their next step.
- They’d never admit they’re controlling. In fact, they might not even recognize it. That’s one of the enemy’s subtle ways to mess up the church: he influences control freaks who don’t even recognize what’s happening.
What other characteristics would you add?